tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7711550997062819324.post4439514673712591236..comments2023-04-05T03:55:09.745-06:00Comments on Abundance of the Heart: Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7711550997062819324.post-77976153120400527922008-03-24T15:21:00.000-06:002008-03-24T15:21:00.000-06:00The first anon comment sounds familiar to me!! My ...The first anon comment sounds familiar to me!! My kids thrive on contact with me as well and then they play nicer on their own!Terezahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00550153942309359995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7711550997062819324.post-32100385099699491212008-03-24T09:30:00.000-06:002008-03-24T09:30:00.000-06:00Every mom is different, every child is different a...Every mom is different, every child is different and every family is different. A guide, online or in print, is just that - a guide. You cannot judge yourself against others or compare yourself to them. <BR/><BR/>Everyone goes through rough times as parents. Everyone has questions and doubts. And every child tests their limits, no matter what they are, as they grow and develop. <BR/><BR/>The key is to find what works for YOU, not what works for others or what someone says you "should" do. <BR/><BR/>You recognize that things aren't quite "right" - that is the biggest step in figuring out the rest. It is those who ignore the signs that have troubles. When you question things and acknowledge difficulties, you are more than half way to making things better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7711550997062819324.post-21020871971352441432008-03-24T08:26:00.000-06:002008-03-24T08:26:00.000-06:00I know how you feel. Mine are 3 and 5 and there a...I know how you feel. Mine are 3 and 5 and there are days that I think I am such a failure. But I think we feel that way just because we want so desperatley to be a good mother. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone goes through seasen were they may seem off their game, but it is just a season. I sometimes think of my grandma and I feel like she had 8 kids and was always perfect, but she really wasn't. She would get upset, chores was not always done. If she was here today I think she would say "just keep your heart right, baby." It's ok to not be perfect, God knows our hearts.Joy Comes in the Morninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02565429387952969679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7711550997062819324.post-35798732599763949232008-03-24T07:47:00.000-06:002008-03-24T07:47:00.000-06:00Thank you all so much for your comments. They have...Thank you all so much for your comments. They have helped me a lot. I too am not so sure about tomato staking. For myself, I've always enjoyed having time to alone. I also can't deal with feeling crowded. (I can barely walk down an aisle at the grocery store that has a few people with buggies there!) I tend to get more frustrated with them right underneath me...this week I'm just going to focus on being in the same room with them and cheerful first time obedience.Anneathearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01188325756630224625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7711550997062819324.post-26151931648905446832008-03-24T07:24:00.000-06:002008-03-24T07:24:00.000-06:00Go to Homeliving Helper and in her sidebar is a bl...Go to Homeliving Helper and in her sidebar is a blog called eHomebody. This gal did a post on girls, hormones, and delinquent attitudes/behaviour in the home. It describes my second child to a T!! It may give some insights.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7711550997062819324.post-78221526937604937472008-03-24T06:25:00.000-06:002008-03-24T06:25:00.000-06:00my kids are now nearly eleven and seven. i'm almo...my kids are now nearly eleven and seven. i'm almost at the "other end" of those little years, and now i have the time to look back and have all those "wish i'd done..." thoughts. do you know what i wish i had known back then? i wish i had spent large chunks of time just laying on the floor amidst their toys and just play with them, smile, laugh, tickle, enjoy... without worrying about the house.<BR/><BR/>i see now how my quest for a perfectly tidy home wasted a lot of time with my kids. i tested this out and found that my kids were better behaved and content, i was more joyful, my house actually got cleaner, when i took a few large chunks of time (half hour chunks or more) during the day to just enjoy them. ask what they want to play during those times. if you take them to the park, engage them, don't just sit on the bench. they just need that bonding time, and then when that chunk of mommy time is over, they will not be so clingy or whiny when you are getting some housecleaning done, so you actually get more done in a smaller amount of time. not to mention if you spend some time really focused on what they would like to do, then they might be more willing and focused to help you in your chores as they get older.<BR/><BR/>when you read about women who keep their kids by their sides all the time (tomato staking? Pearls?) i think that's great for someone who has the personality to deal with that, but i found my seven year old likes her quiet time and space sometimes and has since she was a toddler. she was better behaved when she had her alone time (15 min or so). i also get irritated when my kids were crawling all over me all the time... but then realized it was their only way of communicating that they needed bonding time with me. those big chunks of hyper-focusing on them really did the trick to get them to relax and behave better.<BR/><BR/>sorry this is jumbled! hope this helps somewhat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com