December 18, 2008

Let the Cat out of the bag....

Yall should have seen my face when I checked my comments just now- 25?! Thanks so much everyone. I'll tell ya, I AM SHOCKED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

How did this happen? I know, I know...but, how did this happen?????? My monthly friend has been coming later and later every month so I didn't think much of it. But little things had been putting red flags up:

Very tired at bedtime

sensitive to smells

sore um, bosoms

NOT moody- no PMS

weird stomach feelings

Friday night I was reading the Quiverfull digest and reading about the Duggers; I've been wanting to have another, but felt like everything was against us- I am overweight, I have several children, one is special needs, I've had all c-sections and 'high risk' pregnancies before; my husband works a lot and I have to do mostly everything myself; my parents are very against us having more...

Saturday morning I woke up early, and thought if I am, I would rather find out today than tomorrow before church, so I went and took the test. I was fully expecting it to be negative- I was shaking when I saw two lines. I came back and laid down and my husband asked if I was alright- I said no. Then I told him and he almost started laughing. We prayed about it and we're fine- just nervous about our family and close friends' reactions. How do you tell parents something like this? Especially when they may be very negative about it? I am so close to them, so this is why it's so difficult.

*****Note, if a certain sister-in-law is reading this, please keep it secret till after Christmas- we want to tell the inlaws in person. Thank you!************


So now what?? How am I going to do this????? I'm going to be even more outnumbered than ever!!! The main goal in the next few months is to get everyone potty trained, eat as well as possible, and exercise somehow. Oh yeah, and move. Again. Back to the old house unless we get the call for a job in Michigan, which is likely. Things aren't working too well here anymore...

Overall I am good- tired in the evenings yes, but otherwise I'm fine. Praise the Lord because that's what we've been praying/confessing. Only 35 more weeks to go....

13 comments:

Mrs Flam said...

Congratulations :)

Vix said...

Wow!!!!!Congrats!!! Yay!! Oh My!!! All the reactions in the book. :) I know how you feel. When I was pregger with my 4th we moved..twice! (Hoping that doesnt happen to you) And as far as your parents.. Just break it to them as a blessing. Like "we're expecting another blessing.." And dont give them a second to react. :) Oh congrats!

*Michigan Momma* said...

Congratulations!! What a great surprise~

We moved across country (CO to MI) when I was preggo w/ our 4th - apparently MI calls out to 4th time mommas or something;)

As to the relatives - I second the idea of simply announcing it is such an obviously EXCITED & HAPPY tone, they have no option except to be happy right along with you. If anyone is rude to you, just show them you're hurt and upset (no need to lie).

Now, if someone later comes to you and expresses (politely) their concerns, you can then address it politely as well. Yet you and your dh need to know that most likely you will not be able to change most people's minds right then & there. A much better way to explain & even convict others on this topic is your day-to-day life & your attitude towards your children (not that you have to be perfect - ugh - I hate when others expect me to *always* be delighted with my life. Hello?? I'm human!!).

No one seemed shocked or upset with this, our fifth pregnancy. Maybe they all think we're crazy, but they were nice, polite and even excited right along with us! I get the c-section comment the most and just push that one back onto the medical profession. I just tell them how my OB sees nothing wrong with having numerous c-sections and how each woman's uterus is different. Since our OB is so well respected around here, that usually goes over quite well.

For some people, simply telling them you're taking it one child at a time or you've always wanted a big family is enough. If you feel the Lord's leading though, I would go into a bit more about how you view children as a blessing and not a burden. It's something many people just don't even think about.

No matter what happens with family & friends, you have a wonderful blessing on the way and I, for one, am very excited for you!!!!

Wooo-hooo!!

In my prayers~
Lori

Anonymous said...

Congratulations

I totally missed it as I never scrool to the end.

Mrs. T (South Africa)

Anonymous said...

Congrats! Now you may need to change your "about me" and the building his temple blog.

About telling others, just make sure you are positive/happy when you tell. If you act upset or embarrased, people won't see it as a blessing. We are wanting #4 here in a few months, and I'm sure some family members will be negative about it. However, others won't and I'll just have to focus on that, not the negatives. I just made a IRL friend who's expecting her 5th...such a sweet family.
~Crystal

Joy Comes in the Morning said...

I tried leaving a comment yesterday but the computer was acting up. I know how ya feel on the family members that don't like the idea of another family member. My mom says she is going to personally tie my tubes. LOL It hurts to hear but you know the legacy that you are leaving behind. When we are old and look back at the families we have created, I am sure we will be smiling:) Congrats and God bless.

ineeinaz said...

I will be praying for you and your family. You have your plate very full.

liz from new york said...

when i was pregnant with my 6th, people true natures came out..i had one lovely woman tell i need to learn how to keep my legs closed!hello???im married, have been for 22 years now, support my own family, no gov handouts, or any other help, and thats all people can say? well, my answer has been "since you dont support me or my kids, myob"they real freinds are happy for you, you'll be fine, after awhile you begin to see the tapestry of Gods plan.....

LilyRN said...

I followed you over here from Candy's. Congrats, Jessica! Here's to hoping you DO move to MI, and hello from Vernon! =)

Anneatheart said...

To Liz- I think my mouth would have dropped open if someone said that to me, and then I think I would probably say something like, " Some people need to remove the plank from their own eye before removing one from someone else's. I very happily married and we enjoy sex. So there."

I did once have someone say 'Just tell him no!' As if my husband is begging me for sex all the time and I don't want to do it either. Hello, it takes two to tango!!!

My husband would probably implode if he heard someone say that. I sure hope no one does...the Holy Spirit would really have to reign us both in on that one :)

Anneatheart said...

Joy Comes in the Morning- that is the essence of the stance my own parents have as well, not because they don't like children, but because of all the reasons I listed- my health, we already have a special child, we have them so close together, finances, so on.

They're just gonna have to get in their heads that it isn't their life and that they aren't responsible for our protection and well being- God is :)

Anneatheart said...

Vix- Two of our moves I was pregnant- don't know how I did it. in fact every time we move I don't know how I accomplish it...

This is my 5th Christmas to be pregnant :)

Mrs.KAOS said...

Congratulations! I am sure God will find a way for you to do more than just manage.

What a Christmas Present.